Comments on: Shots of Shawn’s Wedding

By: sewing

sewing — Tue, 08 May 2007 16:22:18 +0000

All true. The officiator at our (traditional-style) wedding masterfully didn’t crack a smile once, even though my wife and I inadvertently turned into a comedy routine through our lack of knowledge of practically anything that was going on—not that there had been a rehearsal or anything to prepare us ahead of time.

By: sanshinseon

sanshinseon — Tue, 08 May 2007 00:41:17 +0000

So far, they’re so good

sewing, altho Shawn was treating it all with good Canadian irreverence, encouraged me to make the whole speech a stndup-routine, i did try to maintain a bit of solemn ‘dignity’ — for the sake and ‘face’ of Yu-mi’s parents and relatives, who’re not such globalized folk, would probably feel insulted if i didn’t appear to ‘take my role seriously’… and i do think that marriage is highly meaningful, a huge step to take — hell, it ought to scare you some…

By: railwaycharm

railwaycharm — Mon, 07 May 2007 22:13:16 +0000

They look like a happy couple. I wish them well.

By: sewing

sewing — Mon, 07 May 2007 17:37:23 +0000

Sanshinseon, you’ve got exactly the right solemn, stony-faced, seonbae—overlooking-his-juniors, look in most of the photos—the only thing you’re missing is the horsehair hat!

By: Fantasy

Fantasy — Mon, 07 May 2007 13:50:17 +0000

I would never have dared to insinuate…:-)

By: sanshinseon

sanshinseon — Mon, 07 May 2007 13:31:52 +0000

a place for psycho-cases and soju-philosophers is more like it…

By: Fantasy

Fantasy — Mon, 07 May 2007 10:09:54 +0000

The Marmot’s Hole is rapidly developing into a place for psychologists and philosophers…

I happen to be quite interested in the topic, although I myself, in spite of my having been married for 7 years (with no children yet), would never have realised these subtle distinctions on my own. They are entirely logical though…

By: sanshinseon

sanshinseon — Mon, 07 May 2007 09:33:03 +0000

On “Greater” Loves, re: iwshim & Sonagi:

Surely it’s well-established that loving yourself (in an honest way, not New-Age ’self-esteem’) is a necessary foundation for loving anyone else, including spouses, in an authentic, healthy and effective way. I have fully believed that ever since i was a teenager.

It’s certainly possible to love your spouse without loving *being* a spouse; i do believe i was in that very situation some two decades ago, and the results were not good. It’s probably equally possible to love being a spouse without loving the spouse that you have. Poor results seem to also be predictable there.

I think that many people start out deeply in love with the person that they marry, but later on the majority of their love is for “their family” — their children and the situation of being a parent and the spouse.

If you had to choose only one between loving your spouse on loving being a spouse… i don’t know that I could say which one is “better”. I am certain that loving both of them is an excellent place to be in, as i’ve been there for almost seven years now. And being married but not loving either of those would suck pretty bad, tho i’ve never really experienced that…

By: sanshinseon

sanshinseon — Mon, 07 May 2007 09:19:17 +0000

Yes, true — it’s one of the modernist architecture landmarks of Seoul — and coincidentally, a building that i actually worked in (as special assistant to the President, supposedly) for some 18 months.

> Anyway, good work, Mr. K!

It was i, Mr. M, who wrote that post…

By: Robert Koehler

Robert Koehler — Mon, 07 May 2007 05:57:07 +0000

Thanks for posting that!

P.S. As a Korean architecture nerd, I’d be remiss if I didn’t point out that the Namsan Freedom Center was designed by Kim Swoo Geun.