I know this probably sounds like a touching love story [Korea Herald], but Jesus, even if we were to assume the best of intentions, has this guy bothered to consider the consequences of telling the world—including possibly her husband and kids—that she used to date a foreigner, and include her name, photo and last-known address to boot! (HT to Lost Nomad)
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He should just fly over here and try looking.If all else fails, he can find a nice filipina.
Haw, come on, wookin.
Mom?!
Seriously, this is something I’d do to an ex ONLY if I held a really, REALLY nasty grudge against her.
This guy…. He met the family, had an address.. Spare me! This guy went through a few wonder-bread princesses before he became forlorn for his “True love”. I agree with the Filipina advice. What a tool!
The guy is 64 years old. If finding her is going to make him happy I wish him the best of luck.
Rob,
Hugh Heffner is eighty, his soon to be new wife is twenty four. What is your point?
See the woods for the trees!
“Hugh Heffner is eighty, his soon to be new wife is twenty four.”
What is your point, that Hugh is a perv?
My point is age has nothing to do with the fact he did little to find his true love. Being sixty four does not excuse that. This is not a story of tragic separation, it is of convenience. You have obviously bought a full fare ticket on the naiveté express.
Railywaycharm - if I understand your meaning correctly, word.
This guy is pursuing the girl after the death of his second wife. He’s old and lonely - and the fact that he didn’t pursue her this adamantly initially is cause for me to doubt his “true love” for this woman.
It’s not explained why he didn’t travel back to Korea after discharge on his own dime.
Tragic. But look on the bright side. We have been spared from another cliche story about a quasi-celebrity who comes to Korea, whose parents were a “hard-working Korean mother” and a GI father (who may or may not still be present in that family)….
“Seriously, this is something I’d do to an ex ONLY if I held a really, REALLY nasty grudge against her.”
Right. He probably does not know what that would mean to her, which is likely 사회적인 말살. Even if he did know, would he care? Probably not.
“You have obviously bought a full fare ticket on the naiveté express.”
Nah, I’m just a live and let live kind of guy, that’s all.
““Hugh Heffner is eighty, his soon to be new wife is twenty four.”
What is your point, that Hugh is a perv?”
Don’t know, but it certainly gains him a place along the flanks of Mount Olympus. Hughefna, demi-god of trophy wives and the men who can afford them.
http://www.turoks.net/Cabana/L.....Greece.htm
There’s one thing that doesn’t seem to add up. Mr. Finucane’s stint in the Army was over during his time in the States. Now if he reenlisted and got sent to Vietnam, okay then, but if he didn’t reenlist, then why didn’t he just get on the next plane to Kimpo, instead of waiting forty years and going through two marriages? And even if he reenlisted he still could have gone to Korea after his one year tour of duty in Vietnam was done with.
Also, the most likely reason, the letters from Ms./Mrs. Han stopped was because she got married to someone else. In those days, arranged marriages were common, and the rule that a girl should get married before reaching her late 20s was strictly enforced. Most probably, her parents simply said, ” He’s not going to come back, forget him” and shipped her off to a Korean groom.
“…that she used to date a foreigner, and include her name, photo and last-known address to boot!”
If that still matters at the age of 61 then life is not worth living.
the dude’s email address says it all: crusty1@alltel.net
Man, you young and not-so-young dudes can be cruel. Your day will come, my friends. Your day will come. And when it does, you’ll be filled with nought but sympathy for your old, lonely brother and his dream of a love that never died.
Note: I wouldn’t worry too much about the address. Concrete was probably poured over that location years ago.
mins0306
You have solved the rubric. For the live and let live crowd; the Brothers Grim has literature that you will certainly enjoy and appreciate. This story is complete and utter claptrap. Spare me!
I am in agreement with the need to let aging men keep their fantasies, but good grief, if I was her Korean husband I would get some kind of restraining order against this guy.
Uri Onara
The darker side of this story is the potential abuse that this woman could face. Koreans do not shoulder shame and embarrassment well.
Hey, why doesn’t the guy forget about ruining the life and marriage of some girl he dated forty years ago and go find a nice young one in the ‘Won to take back to his parents (if they’re still alive)? If he can’t get one in Korea, I’m sure there would be plenty in the Philippines or Vietnam that would still be willing to marry an old geezer with money, especially if he has money.
I hope the final of their story will not be that of by Somerset Maugham.
Error again.
I hope the final of their story will not be that of RED HAIR by Somerset Maugham.
This guy should have just defected to North Korea a long time ago.
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Charles Finucane needs your help. Once upon a time in 1966 he was engaged to marry Han Kwang-soo. At the time Charles was in the US Army and stationed in South Korea. Today Mr. Finucane is asking for help in locating Ms. Han. He is even offering a $5…..
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